Your Questions, Our Answers

A. You can look for counselors in one of the following sources:

1. The North-American Division Family Ministries Department has a list of counselors throughout The U.S.:  Their web site is http://www.adventistfamilyministries.com/

2. Life Innovations has a list of counselors trained in the use of PREPARE/ENRICH, one of the most widely used programs for pre-marital counseling.  Their web site is:                      http://www.prepare-enrich.com

3. The American Association of Christian Counselors also has a list of counselors in many areas.  Their web site to search is: http://aacc.net/ccn/search.php

Phone: 763-424-8923

Fax: 763-424-9576

E-mail: Claudio@loveforalifetime.info

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Q. Where can I find a counselor for pre-marital preparation?

Diane, OR

Love for a Lifetime

Q. What do you think about pre-nuptial Agreements?

Susan, DE

A. We believe that pre-nuptial agreements are nothing but making provision to fail.  When we enter into marriage, we make a commitment, before God and to each other, that we will live together for the rest of our lives.  If we keep to that commitment, we will fight for our marriage instead of looking for a quick, convenient exit.

Q. How Do you meet your husband’s need for sexual fulfillment when there is a disability?

Judy

A. One of the most informative and practical books on this subject is Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau’s, A Celebration of Sex.  Dr. Rosenau devotes an entire chapter, entitled Making Love When You Have a Disability to this area.  Clifford and Joyce Penner, in their book The Gift of Sex, also offer many ideas for a healthy, satisfying sex life in spite of disabilities or problems.

Q. How Do I get my husband to be more responsive to me?

Ann

A. It would be nice to have a magic wand you could wave over your spouse and change them into what you want him/her to be.  We believe that if you desire a change, you could look into learning more about them, their needs, those things that they like and enjoy doing or have done for them, and then make it your goal to meet those needs or join in those activities.  The hope, of course, is that they will respond in kind.  But if they don’t, at least you will have the satisfaction of having loved them and made them happy; that’s the unselfish part of love.